Men have them……but so do women, and everyone has their own reasons for having them.

Extramarital affairs may start out of boredom or curiosity. Perhaps you love your partner and the life you have with your partner…but it just isn't quite satisfying you sexually, but you DO love your partner and you don't want to destroy the relationship.

Or perhaps it's the simple financial equation that a divorce or break-up would destroy you financially.  

Whatever the motivation, extramarital affairs (or extra-relationship affairs!) are not that uncommon, and happen for an unlimited number of reasons. Only you know what your personal motivation is – and hopefully you will find a partner that is similarly motivated so that you can have a truly mutually satisfying affair, with no one hurt on either side. And believe it or not – it IS possible!  

Here are some tips for a successful extramarital affair: 1) An affair should be very exciting so enjoy every moment. Savor the eroticism, the naughtiness, the sheer joy of having your own secret fantasy life.  

2) Relax, before, after and during. This is your play time, for both of you, so make the most of it.  

3) Make sure you both have a clear understanding of the ground rules – this is a relationship of the moment, most likely not the future. If your feelings change at some point – discuss it openly. Be honest, even though it may seem odd since this is your "secret" life.  

4) Keep your other life separate from your extramarital relationship. Don't talk about the job, your family, your partner. DO explore your fantasies, your wildest and most erotic ideas and dreams. This is your playground – explore it fully; don't spoil it by letting reality intrude. Pretend that nothing exists beyond the two of you during your time together.  

5) Remember that this IS ONLY AN AFFAIR – just as you should not let reality intrude on your time together – don't let your fantasy life intrude on your real life. If you want to keep your "real" relationship or marriage intact – don't compare it to your extramarital affair. It simply won't work – for anyone.